From a Hong Kong Chinese background, weddings become a celebration for the parents rather than the couple itself and to make our parents proud, the wedding must be as glamourous as you can possibly have (which means throwing your entire life savings on it for some people) and invite people you don’t even know or relatives you don’t even like so that your parents can tell the world how well the family is doing. That is the exact reason I don’t want to get married, I just don’t see the point because if I am happy, a certificate wont add to it. I am not planning to have a child (please don’t ask me why and if I will change my mind because at the time being, the answer is no and it really drives me crazy when people ask) so I really don’t see the rush to get married.
Seeing my dad sick, Leo (my hubby to be) decided that we should get married and motivate him and plus we love each other so we should get married. Since my dad was not well, all I wanted was a quick ceremony and get the papers signed to make my dad happy. (Again, brief background about Chinese parents, if you are female and you don’t get married, you have brought the family a bad name and you are a very sad girl because no men wants you, the relatives are all laughing behind the family’s back and the relatives are all married and the son in law is a lawyer/doctor/pilot/billionaire etc, you know what I mean).
My dad passed away now and a ceremony was not organized in time as he wasn’t able to leave the hospital so Leo and I changed our plans from a simple ceremony at the registry to a proper wedding just with close friends and family. It all sound easy and I was excited! But how?
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